
First things first... I'm so sorry I have not written sooner. A life of "settling in" being what it is has required a lot of attention, and the few moments I have had of trying to update you along the way have gone squandered from trying to say too much and running out of time in that session to say anything at all. By the time I get back to it, the moments to recount have piled up even more. So, this will need to be brief in order to actually get it out!
Travel and Arrival
To get your bearings, earlier this summer we moved from Ambridge, Pennsylvania to Dallas, TX for the summer. From there, we have moved here, to Durham, England. It's a small city of about 50,000 people and the home of both Durham Cathedral and Durham University, the latter of which is my chosen place for further study in Old Testament.
Thanks to everyone out there who prayed for our big move. The trip over here was very successful. The flight went about as smoothly as one could expect. The kids were very excited to be on such a big plane (with little TV screens in front of each seat complete with kids movies and video games; well, and let's not forget the flight attendants delievering snacks to your seat!). And although they didn't sleep very much (Ewan, 6, slept literally one hour), they did very well with their attitudes (i.e. only a couple of meltdowns). We flew straight from DFW to London (Heathrow) and on to Newcastle(-upon-Tyne) which is the biggest city near to Durham (about 25 minutes north of here).
All our security checkpoints went well. The X-ray machine operators we encountered in DFW and London were both women, and I think they looked at us with more sympathy than male operators might have. We had to get shoes off of three little guys, take out my laptop, our Wii console, and our 20-inch iMac from their bags and send them through separately to be scanned (along with our other carry on bags filled with books, toys, and important documents).
We were very nervous the night before our flight because we realized that our iMac (in its original box) was too large to carry on according to airline regulations. After a mad scramble to try and find an authentic "iMac carrying-case" (which, yes, they do make), we found a super large canvas bag from LL Bean that we already had and put the computer in that. We hoped it would work, and it did.
REFLECTION:
This kind of last-minute scramble of problems was a constant feature in our overall move.
Situation 1: Early in the summer, when I applied for my UK student visa, the next day, Amelia and I found out that our fourth child in her womb was deceased. The next three days were full of sadness and the Friday of that week I had an already-scheduled appointment to drive to downtown Pittsburgh to get my fingerprints and photo taken at a specially-required government site. But, of course, that morning, the baby passed from Amelia's womb, and we were torn up with grief and concerned about Amelia's blood-loss. In a moment of sheer Providence (with a capital "P"), simultaneously, we were (a) able to have our boys go over and play with our next door neighbors, (b) receive a phone call from our rector's wife back home in Texas, who immediately and compassionately prayed powerfully before the throne of grace on our behalf, and (c) Amelia's best friend in Pittsburgh was already on her way over to stay by Amelia's side and (as it turns out) pack most of our dining room. With all those events in place, I prayed, talked to Amelia, took a deep breath and got in the car and drove to keep my visa process in progressing order.
Situation 2: A week later, as a part of my continuing visa application, I was required to send evidence of funds in our bank accounts (or from loans) that proved that I could afford to study in the UK. I had 14 days to submit the proper documentation. It sounded fairly straight-forward. We had the money. We just had to print out papers saying so. The regulations from the UK Border Agency however give very strict guidelines about what kinds of papers would be accepted as proof of funds. No problem, I sent away to our bank for the right evidence. A week passed and right on time, the bank letter came showing the necessary proof, except our biggest savings account (which we had been paying into for about 10 years in preparation for graduate studies)! I called the bank. There was nothing they could do. I had something like 24 hours to figure out what to do and send all the documents to Los Angeles. Fortunately, the UK Border Agency offers a telephone number where you can call to get information about your visa application. They explicitly tell you that they have no information that is different from the website, but if you want to talk to someone, instead of find the info for yourself on the web than you can spend $12 to talk to someone. My back was against the wall and time was ticking. I called. I begged for more information about how much time I had. "You have 14 days," came the reply. "Is there an extension I can get?" "No." "Will it cost me more money if I don't complete this application and have to reapply?" "Yes, $212.00." Flabbergasted, I just kept talking, trying to get my full $12's worth. "So, I applied on such-and-such a date and today is such-and-such so I have to have these documents in Los Angeles by tomorrow, which is such-and-such or I can't get my visa, is that right?" "Well," the reply came, "the 14 days are business days." "Business days??" (I have never been so happy in my life to hear the words, "Business days!") "You mean I have until such-and-such, another 4 calendar days to send the materials?" "Correct, sir." Hallelujah!!! I was SO happy I spent $12 dollars to have someone read website material to me. They said the same thing it said on the web, but on another level, they said something completely different! I then managed to get the papers together and send them on to LA.
Situation 3: The day we packed the truck, we had another "close call." Amelia had actually never stopped bleeding from the miscarriage.
{BTW, why do we say "she miscarried" or "her miscarriage"? On one level, it is, it's true, happening to the mother's body in a unique and devastating way, but, on another level, to me, it sounds like it's her body that is at fault for the miscarriage. Putting the emphasis on the subject rather than the verb makes it sound like a woman is to blame for the miscarriage or it was her body's "fault" somehow. Maybe I'm crazy on this one, but I just wonder. Mom's feel enough guilt and pain in miscarriage. Isn't there another way we can talk about it?}
On the day we packed the truck for the move to Texas, I was out getting the truck and when I came home, she wasn't there. She had had a MAJOR increase in her bleeding. Providentially (again with a capital "P"), my parents were with us, so my mom was home with the boys while our neighbor, Sandy (who had just finished packing up her own moving truck for their move to British Columbia, Canada; crazy, I know, you can't make this stuff up!), who has 5 kids (and just has a wonderful sense of mom-and-birth stuff), came over and drove Amelia to the ER. So, I prayed, talked to Amelia on the phone, and took a deep breath and started packing. What else could I do? Wow. Thinking back on that, I just want to cry. The weight. The pain. The transition. Ugh. She was home by dinner having passed the baby's placenta and physically feeling much better. The next day, she flew out to Dallas ahead of us. No wait, cancel that. She TRIED to fly out but in a huge thunderstorm her plane was grounded and rescheduled for departure the next morning (the day of driving) at 4 AM. I circled back. Picked up her and Graham and went home to deliver our van to our friends who (again, providentially) bought it from us.
Situation 4: Months later, in early August, Amelia and I were talking about what kind of work she might be able to do in England while I am here studying. We began to look on the website for some indication of regulations. We looked. And looked. And looked. We soon realized that we didn't understand what her status in the UK would actually be! We assumed "spouse of someone with a UK student visa," but that status didn't exist exactly. Anyway, long story short....after 1.5 hours of looking on the website we found that she (AND THE KIDS) needed her/their OWN visas. (BTW, this page, with the information about how your dependents can make their own application DID NOT EXIST less than 2 months ago. I promise. Maybe because I complained so badly about it!) Complete with her own documents and bank statements, etc. O man! They said they could process applications in 20 days (business days!). If they did, it would get to us exactly the day of our already-scheduled flight (or maybe the Saturday before, depending on whether the British Embassy works on Labor Day or not!). We freaked out. Then, we prayed, we talked, and took a deep breath and trusted the Lord. Providentially (with a capital "P"), the UK Border Agency processed our application in half the time they normally do. 10 days. Which apparently, we've learned over here (from others horror stories) is AMAZINGLY REMARKABLE. I think by this time, having gone through all we'd gone through, we were able to trust the Lord on this last one with a little more faith than the first three! Faith in God grows in our hearts, the hard way.
All of this to say: By the time the iMac situation came up. We were nervous, but we were also able to trust the Lord more than before.
What a move.
Well, I'll write more later. Apparently, "brief" is not an ability I have!